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  1. Deal of the Day - Friday
    Friday, November 30, 2012
  2. Deal of the Day - Thursday
    Thursday, November 29, 2012
  3. Deal of the Day - Wednesday
    Thursday, November 29, 2012
  4. Deal of the Day - Tuesday
    Tuesday, November 27, 2012
  5. Cyber Monday Beautiful Christmas Cards
    Monday, November 26, 2012
  6. But by the Grace of God...
    Monday, September 17, 2012
  7. 10 Free Thank You Cards from Tiny Prints
    Thursday, September 13, 2012
  8. Me-Time: The Most Unselfish thing a Working Mom Can Do
    Monday, September 10, 2012
  9. Marriage and Working Moms - Who Does What?
    Monday, August 27, 2012
  10. The Christian Response to the Sikh Tragedy
    Monday, August 06, 2012

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Working Mom's Reality Check

Deal of the Day - Friday

Tiny Prints is keeping the Cyber Monday/Tuesday Sitewide Sale offering 25% Off through the weekend. So you still have time to get a great deal on the best personalized holiday cards, Christmas cards, Hanukkah cards, holiday party invitations, custom photo gifts, and everything else on their site.

For the rest of the weekend, when you checkout, just use the promo code WKDSALE1112 to get 25% whatever you just created.

If you're a Tiny Prints regular, you don't need me to tell you how incredible their stuff is. If you are not familiar with them, now is the time to check them out. Their site is easy to use and you can personalize all of the cards, invitations, gifts and more with your own text, pictures, and personality.

There has never been a better time to buy from Tiny Prints and this sale ends Sunday at midnight Pacific Time, so check them out today.

DEAL OF THE DAY
Friday-Sunday: 35% off all gifts
Code: CYBER1130
Expiration: 12/2/12 11:59 pm PT

Deal of the Day - Thursday

Today is the last day to get the Tiny Prints Cyber Week 30% off sitewide Sale. The Christmas Cards I ordered of my family came in the mail yesterday and we are so excited! (I can hardly wait until the phone calls start coming in from friends and relatives about our awesome card.)  You can also get a great deal from the same manufacturer of Customized Christmas cards that I use myself. Everything on their site is on sale - when you've got the right coupon codes.

Just use the Tiny Prints promo code CB12 when you checkout to get this awesome 30% off everything deal. And use Coupon code FREESHIP12 to get free shipping too!

Today I'm ordering a set of customized mugs with one of my Mom's favorite pictures and scriptures as part of her Christmas gift. They're 35% off today, plus free shipping??? This is how I'm streeeeetching my dollars while giving gifts people are sure to love.

There has never been a better time to buy from Tiny Prints. This sale ends tonight at midnight Pacific Time, so check them out today.

DEAL OF THE DAY

Thursday: 35% off mugs
Code: CYBER1129
Expiration: 11/29/12 11:59 pm PT

Deal of the Day - Wednesday

Great news...if you missed the Tiny Prints Cyber Monday/Tuesday 30% Sitewide Sale, they are extending for another two days! You can still get a great deal on the best custom holiday cards, Christmas cards, Hanukkah cards, holiday party invitations, custom photo gifts...everything on their site is on sale for two more days, today and tomorrow, November 29.

Just use the promo code CB12 when you checkout to get this awesome deal.

If you have used Tiny Prints before, you know how great their products are. If you have not, you are missing out on the best custom cards, invitations, and gifts. Their site is super easy to use and you can personalize everything by writing your own text, uploading pictures, and making everything uniquely you!

There has never been a better time to buy from Tiny Prints and this sale ends tomorrow at midnight Pacific Time, so check them out today.

DEAL OF THE DAY

Wednesday:
35% off Stamps & Embossers
Code: CYBER1128
Expiration: 11/28/12 11:59 pm PT

Deal of the Day - Tuesday


Deal of the Day!

Tuesday: 35% off Personalized Notebooks
Code: CYBER1127
Expiration: 11/27/12 11:59 pm PT


And don't forget that Christmas Cards are still 30% off at Tiny Prints - enter Coupon Code CB12.  Plus you can also get Free Shipping when you enter Code FREESHIP12!









Cyber Monday Beautiful Christmas Cards

 
Send Beautiful Christmas Cards - Cyber Monday Double Coupon Deal
Read our Complete Review of Tiny Prints Cards on WorkingMom.com

Also Check out the Deal of the Day Specials all Week


Just in time for the season, Tiny Prints is offering 30% off everything on their site. Custom holiday cards, Christmas cards, Hanukkah cards, holiday party invitations, custom photo gifts...you name it, it's on sale for two days, today, Monday November 26 and tomorrow, Tuesday November 27.

Enter the promo code CB12 when you checkout to get this great deal.
Enter the promo code FREESHIP12 to get Free shipping too.

If you have used Tiny Prints before, you know how incredibly awesome they are. If you have not, you are missing out on the best custom cards, invitations, and gifts. Their site is super easy to use and you can customize everything. You write your own text, upload pictures, and make everything uniquely you!

There will never be a better time to buy from Tiny Prints and this sale ends tomorrow at midnight Pacific Time, so check them out today.

But by the Grace of God...


Gracia - practicing her surfing before swimming

Yesterday was one of those great weather, relaxing and mild kinds of Sunday afternoons. After church, we all decided to go to the house of one of our friends and get together for a barbecue and to swim in their pool. It's a nice home, set way back from the road with lots of acreage, horses next door and a gorgeous fenced in pool.

We've all heard the stories about how accidental drownings occur most frequently for kids when they're at parties. (A whole lot of people around yet no one notices the child in distress until it's too late.)

Well...yesterday we could've become one of those statistics. In the blink of an eye.

I was RIGHT there. No further than 10 feet away. I was sitting down, facing towards where I could keep my eye on my three-year-old. She was directly within my line of sight.
She was playing in the shallow part of the pool, right near the steps.
  • The music wasn't loud.
  • There was no rough-housing or excessive splashing going on in the pool.
  • No one was drinking. 
  • There were only two other people in the pool at the time.
I think these four facts may have saved her life, or at the very least saved her from what would've been a severely traumatic experience.

How it Happened
I was having a light conversation with one of the other mothers when all of a sudden, one of our family friends jumped up and ran straight into
the pool, fully dressed.

Then I saw what had caught his eye. My youngest daughter, Gracia Emmanuelle (and her name literally means "God's grace with us") had ventured just a little too far, and in a panic, she was flailing her arms trying to keep her head above water.

(Pause for a deep breath here)

It is a sight I will never forget. And one I pray you will never see yourself.

By the grace of God, our friend had her in his arms by the time I got to the side of the pool. He handed her to my husband who had reached the side of the pool even before I did.

She clung to her Dad for a s
econd and explained that she was on her tippy toes, but the water had gotten too big. Then within seconds, she asked him to put her down so she could get back in the water - this time with a floaty - just in case.

Every bit of my maternal instincts were SCREAMING "That's about enough swimming for today!" But the rational part of me quickly kicked in, and I realized that our friend's watchful eyes and quick action not only may have saved her life, it had also protected her from fear.

She was unafraid.

And that was a blessing.

Even though my child was in distress just a few seconds prior, the grownups were immediately there to assist her. As a result, she's still a secure 3-year-old, even despite the incident, which somehow had the effect of confirming to her that the adults in her life really are looking out for her.

Lessons to Learn
There's a moral to this utterly terrifying, "every-mom's-worst-nightmare" story. How often are we like my 3 year old? How often to we flirt with danger, doing and saying things that we know the Lord doesn't want us to do? How often do we drive just a little too fast (to save time.) Or text while driving? Or any other number of things we know we shouldn't do?

In my case, it's safe to say I'm probably like that too often to fit it all in a blog post. But looking back on our mistakes, do we bother to recognize when God sent someone or orchestrated scenarios to save us from our own frivolity? Even if the Lord used unexpected people or means?

This is an important exercise when looking back on decisions that bring us into situations where we, like Gracia find we are "in over our heads."  While it's tempting to dedicate mental and emotional energy assigning blame, it's a waste of what could be a learning experience.

Gracia could have chosen to fix her anger and distrust upon us with:

"Why did my Mom & Dad even allow me to even BE in a situation where I could've drowned?"   [And believe me, those very thoughts have crossed my mind, so please keep me in prayer.] Or would it be more productive to recognize what has been done to save us and help us? And just like Gracia decided to continue swimming, (this time with a floaty) is it a better use of our resources to make a plan of how we're going to 'swim" going forward? Or do we instead let fear just keep us out of the water forever?

Are you blessed with a roof over your head? A job? A family? People who care about you? If so, celebrate these things. And thank the Lord for allowing you to have them.

Perhaps as time passes I'll be able to more effectively analyze the "learning points" to be gained from this harrowing experience. And if you have any insight, wisdom or have had a similar experience, please feel free to share it with me in the comments below.

Thanks for reading...and praying.

-Sabrina


10 Free Thank You Cards from Tiny Prints

Tiny Prints 10 Free Thank You Cards

"Thank you."

Two words not said often enough.
  • Not by bosses,
  • Not by spouses,
  • Not by friends,
  • Nor even by strangers on the street.
We're out to change that...

For one week only, you can get 10 FREE thank you cards from Tiny Prints. All you pay is shipping (as low as $3.50).

These cards can be completely customized and personalized to your taste. Choose from thousands of designs, add your own pictures, change the text, the fonts, the colors. You get to make these cards uniquely from you.

Just use the Tiny Prints promo code FREETHANKS when you check out and just pay the shipping. Tiny Prints will send the 10 cards right away. Then whenever you need to say thanks - you'll have a supply of customized cards on hand to say "Thank you" - with style.

Let's set an example for our kids by starting a Thank You Revolution!

Visit Tiny Prints now
to take advantage of this incredible deal.


Oh, and I'd be remiss if I forgot to say:

"Thank you for reading my post!"

Sincerely,
Sabrina O'Malone

Me-Time: The Most Unselfish thing a Working Mom Can Do


"Be sure to adjust your own mask before helping others."

If you’ve ever been on an airplane, you’ve heard it before. It almost makes you wonder what the Federal Aviation Administration (FAA) was thinking when they added it to the standard pre-flight safety demonstration. At first glance, it seems to say:
  • “Look out for Number One!”
  • “It’s every man for himself!”
But in reality, this is lifesaving advice for both the listener and the people they are trying to help.  As a busy mom, you would be wise to consider this principle in daily living.
“Keep yourself in the best condition possible so you're able to help others.”
As a Mom, you constantly give and do whatever possible to help your family. It’s a noble, 24/7/365 calling. Over time, it almost becomes second nature to put your own needs on the back burner.
  • Your family needs you.
  • Your job needs you.
  • There’s always someone depending upon you for help.
It’s no wonder it almost becomes an automatic reflex to assist others before taking care of yourself.

But that's an epic fail.

In the airplane scenario, it’s pretty obvious why failing to take care of yourself first would be supremely short-sighted. (You’re going to need oxygen from your own mask just to be able to assist others.)

Jesus himself had some advice about putting self-care on your to do list. He said:
“And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye when you have a log in your own? How can you think of saying to your friend, ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.” - Matthew 7:3-5 NLT
The Lord gives you express permission - no, more like a mandate for to put self care first.

The 4th of the Bible's Ten Commandments says to set aside periodic and regular times to rest and worship.  I fully understand that this can be an area of struggle, particularly for busy working moms who may already feel there aren’t enough hours in the day to get things done.

But take it from me, you will actually get more done in six days when you are focused, well-rested and productive than you will by trying to work (inside and outside of the home) seven days a week. Sheer exhaustion alone will make you sluggish, less productive and unfocused. This is precisely why you need to recharge, replenish and refresh your body, mind and spirit on a regular and ongoing basis.

And if you need further encouragement that putting yourself on your own to do list is important - and yes, even Biblical, consider Romans 12:1.

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship.” 

Consider taking care of your body as an act of worship?

Yes. (And it’s really about time.)

The first step to taking better care of yourself is to get organized. On WorkingMom.com there are dozens of time management tools and checklists available for free, with no registration. These tools were designed to meet the needs of busy moms so they can make the most of their time, energy and money.

I urge you to begin the process of reclaiming some free time for yourself. Devote some of your time to maintaining your physical, mental and spiritual health.

You deserve it.
You need it.
You'll have more to give your family.
(Besides, the Lord has commanded it.)

In parting, remember that Jesus said to love your neighbor as yourself. Not better than yourself, not worse, but AS. So treat yourself with the respect and kindness that you'd give anyone else you care about!

Marriage and Working Moms - Who Does What?



I get a whole lot of questions from working moms about the division of labor.

Who does what?
Who works more?
Who is more tired at the end of a day?
How can I get my husband to do more around the house and help more with the kids?

As we all know, every marriage is unique and there are no "one-size-fits-all" solutions. And let me start out by stating unequivocally in no way do I consider myself an expert on marriage.  (Truly, I'm no marriage expert.) But that withstanding, I will share some of the lessons I've learned over the course of 20 years with my husband that have made for a happier homestead.

1. Throw away the scorecard. (Seriously.) Save yourself the pain of attempting to keep a runny tally about who does more work inside and out of the home. Just do your own work heartily as if working unto the Lord and not man. In all actuality, you don't really know every nuance of what your husband does and why he chooses to do what he does moment by moment. (And if you think you do, then you are paying too much attention on something that should not be of primary importance!) Take it from me, if you just can't help but keep thinking about what your husband is doing, may I suggest you instead choose to think about everything he does right? As the Bible says: "
Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus." 
Do yourself and your entire family a favor and quit worrying or nagging your husband to do things and instead start praying and making your requests to God! That's a tip and tactic that will make your entire household happier and more peaceful. (Trust me on this, I've tried it.) 

2. Delegate to your children. If you are overwhelmed and overworked, make sure that you are training your children to be not only increasingly self-reliant, but make sure they are getting practice being a blessing to others, starting with the members of their own family. Even young children can set the table, clear the table and fold square laundry such as washcloths and hand towels. Make sure that they do. In the long run having their help will turn out to be more help to you than a hindrance.

3. Upgrade your thinking.
This is closely related to the first tip. If you want long term peace, love and happiness in your marriage, even despite momentary trials when you feel at the end of your rope, this is for you:
"Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things."
Deliberately devote time and energy to counting your blessings. In particular, the blessings that come from being married to your own particular husband. Name them. Think about the things going RIGHT. Things to be grateful for. This is a best practice that has saved countless marriages.

I hope my thoughts on the topic encourages you and puts a fresh wind in your sails on working, motherhood and marriage.

In His Service,
Sabrina





The Christian Response to the Sikh Tragedy



We are praying for the people of Oak Creek Wisconsin, especially the families of those affected and impacted by such evil and such senselessness brutality.

It is heartbreaking to think of worshippers being...ambushed like that. So patently evil. I hope and pray that other leaders in the Christian community will respond with prayer, an outpouring of love and support for the people affected.

What is this world coming to?


As Christians, as followers of Jesus, we are called us to love our neighbor as ourselves. And like the response in the parable he told about the Good Samaritan, we are exhorted to extend compassion and help to those of differing faiths, particularly when they are hurting and need it most. We should be leaders in terms of what "love in action" looks and we have the opportunity to illustrate a loving, Christian response to tragedy before the eyes of this watching and fallen world.

That withstanding, we are all called to exercise discernment, (How else are we to recognize situations which require prayer and action?) But remember that discernment is an entirely different thing from judgement. Though we all have every right to be angry with the gunman, we can rest in the knowledge that God alone will judge him, knowing his heart, mind and inner workings - far more than we will.


"For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places." - Ephesians 6:12

It should come as no surprise that the gunman turned out to be an adherent to some utterly depraved, thoroughly evil mindset / philosophy that based its violence and aggression upon the race or religion of others.

Fellow Christians, we really do need to come out strong about this: 
  • First - Because it is the right thing to do.
  • Second because the very Spirit of the Lord we serve condemns this heinous act.
  • Third because the watching world needs to SEE and know that we are not only vocal about things that effect "certain" lives, but we stand in solidarity and with actions, services and financial resources for ALL the marginalized or victimized within our reach or area.
The world at large would be blessed to witness that kind of response from us, not to mention how we have the opportunity to minister to and help the grieving people who lost loved ones along with the feeling of security that they used to have when they worship.

Join me in praying for the Oak Creek Wisconsin community and members of the Sikh Temple.

In His Service,
Sabrina O'Malone
WorkingMom.com